On people-pleasing

What does the role of people-pleaser serve you
and who, dear one, are you pleasing?

When you please, where does your sense of self go?
What do you disconnect from to falsely connect with another?

I wonder what it would be like to surrender this people-pleasing role for another?
Say, delighting in your authentic Self!
Not at the expense of another, but in an honoring, stay in your space way

For, you must know who you are and what you want and need
in order to share of yourself

Is it from a place of being whole and regulated
or
afraid and dysregulated?

Perhaps the other side of people-pleasing is true connection
first with your Self
and then in shared mutuality
with a safe
considerate
other.

BJP